How to Turn Indifferent Prospects into Loyal Customers Who are Hooked for Life!
7 Principles of Attraction Marketing that you can use in Life and Business for Success</font color>
The idea for this blog post came to me one night in a burst of inspiration, causing me to jot down notes as-fast-as-I-could on the whiteboard that I sat on my lap.
For the last few weeks, on 5-minute breaks for the moving company where I worked, while others smoked and chatted, I was sitting quietly, pouring over personal development books like “Focal Point” (Bryan Tracy) and “The Gift” (Shad Helmstetter).
To be honest, I was frustrated, from the hard, mindless work of lugging heavy furniture up-and-down flights of stairs and felt physically beaten down due to a work-related injury–a fall off a landing dock, catching my left leg, just below the knee–against the folded-up loading ramp, which causecd a contusion (blood beneath the skin), swelling (there’s still a bump and it’s tender), a drive to an emergency clinic, followed by a tetanus shot.
So, to keep myself sane and my mind occupied as I lugged this useless, overpriced and overweight furniture, along with the abundance of clothes packed in wardrobe boxes, I read personal development books on breaks, then mused on what I had learned while carrying stuff around.
A lot of the guys I worked with had work-related injuries–scars, bruises, bad backs–and I did not want to end up like them, acting out this seemingly
weatherbeaten screenplay of the jaded moving company grunt, participating in the myth of hard working, hard drinking, heavy smoking laborer.
Does anyone really want a job like that, for 10-20-30 years?
One of the guys has been working there 20 years. He complains and he doesn’t
look to happy to be working there, either. Seeing this job as an outside on the inside, I can honestly say I don’t think anyone wants to work this kind of job, but, because they don’t know exactly what they want, and gained the skills in that area to move toward their goal, they’re lifting furniture all day long.
Of course, I can only speak for myself, though. Personally, I wanted something bigger. On the short term, I wanted out. I was praying to get fired, something my girlfriend, Meghan, will attest to if you ask her.
What do I like doing?
Developing websites based around my interest, especially real estate investing and natural health and wellness cures. My main goal is to empower people to have excellent health, and to work at home for themselves. For that reason alone, I study marketing materials, to enable me to reach people in a relevant way–economically and physically, which in turn equips them physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.
One evening, sitting at the desk, the ideas for a marketing book came to me, almost like a depth charge in the sea of my psyche. Fifteen minutes later, I had penned seven principles for attracting and turning potential customers/strangers into loyal customers/friends.Perhaps my interest in reading and studying marketing over the last year has culminated in this book, a distillation of what I have learned.
Once I accumulate a certain amount of knowledge in a specific area, I feel compelled to give it away, which is almost a cleaning-process of my mind, a catharthis of sorts. And once I give it away, it expands. Others benefit, and I get more back.
The goal of this book is threefold:</font color>
1) To help you get more prospects
2) To help you convert those prospects into loyal customers who buy from you
3) To get those customers so happy to know you that they tell their friends about you
You can probably use this book to:</font color>
1) To help you meet more people
2) To help you turn turn those strangers into loyal friends who will help you
accomplish your goals, and help motivate, challenge, and inspire you in some way
3) To get those friends so happy to know you that they tell their friends about you
I hope you enjoy this book, apply the principles, and get amazing results. Let me know what happens when you put these principles to use.
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I believe If you learn these 7 principles of attraction marketing and incorporate them into your daily life, I believe that you will reach success in your life and in your business. Employing these strategies will enable you to attract people, places, situations, and circumstances into your life. Once this happens, you will find yourself in a position where you will attract as many prospects, customers, and buyers as you are able to handle. You’re about to dive into some life changing information. I hope you take these techniques, apply them in your life, and see successful results.</font color>
Listen. Ask questions. Speak in terms of what the other person wants.
If you’ve worked at an office, you’ve probably met the person who everyone avoids because they talk about themselves so much and don’t know when to stop.
They’re like a broken water fountain of boring information. You walk up to get a drink (ask a question), then get drowned in their incessant babble.
If only they knew how they repel people by talking so much about themselves.
It is the province of knowledge to speak, and it is the the privilege of wisdom to listen.
Oliver Wendell Holmes</font color>
A simple way to attract people to you is by listening.
Forgetting yourself entirely.
Visualizing what the other person is saying.
Then, once he’s finished talking, ask him a question that is specific to what he told you. Ask for clarification, or an example.
In doing this, you’ll find out what someone else is interested in–their pursuits, hobbies, goals. Also, you’ll gain favor in their eyes as being rare (most people don’t listen) and valuable (because you’re listening to them).
Let me tell you a story.
When I was in high school, I remember taking a bus ride with the marching band to a town a few hours away. A friend from school, Fritz, had invited another friend a friend of his to school with him for the day. This kid didn’t know anyone and was pretty quiet.
I remember being introduced to him, then sitting nearby. In our high school at the time, there were little groups of friends who chatted with each other whenever they could. I was a senior and kept to myself. So, while everyone else talked, I remained silent.
Seeing Fritz’s friend sitting there quietly too, I began asking him questions, listening, then asking him follow up questions.
A few days later, Fritz approached me in the hallway and said: “My friend said that you’re the most interesting person he’s ever met.”
“Really,” I asked with surprise. “Why? He didn’t really ask me anything about
“He just said you were really cool,” Fritz replied, then walked off.
Then I realized it. I was interesting because I was asking him questions.
Hilarious! The thing is, though, that’s how human nature is–people crave attention. And when you give someone authentic attention by asking questions
that you are genuinely interested in hearing an answer to, people will like you.
This simple recipe will attract people to you like a magnet.
The beauty of listening is that you are learning as you listen. If you’re talking to someone who you don’t respect, and don’t want to be like in any way, you are still learning … not what to do.
Find someone you admire, meet them, ask them questions, actively listen.
Listen. Ask questions. Speak in terms of what the other person wants.
It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.
What Life Should Mean to You
(Alfred Adler – famour Viennese psychologist)</font color>
Means Values and Ends Values
There are means-values and ends-values.
What is the difference between means-values and ends-values?
Means-values is what-people-say-they-want.
Ends-values is how getting-what-they-want-will-make-them-feel.
Here is an example of means-values and ends-values.
Ask someone why they enjoy jogging.
They answer: “It keeps me in shape and it’s a stress releasor.” Those are means values, the evident end-result of engaging in an activity of some sort.
Now, ask that same person this question: “How does jogging make you feel?”
They answer: “It makes me feel toned, focused, sexy, and powerful–as if I can accomplish anything I want. It puts my mind at peace.”
Those are the end values, the outcome of the means values, and the real reason why this person jogs.
Interestingly, a lot of people are not even aware of the ends values in doing-whatthey-do.
Once you know their ends values, you can help them get to those ends values by offering them your product or service.
If you can give that person something that will fulfill the ends values, you’ve just turned an indifferent prospect into an interested customer.
At this point, you can mention how your product or service can fulfill their ends values. In the case of the jogger … toned, focused, sexy, valuable, his mind at peace.
Show him how your product or service can bring those results to him.
Grab your high lighter and mark this next sentence. It is critical
Don’t sell anything to anyone. Instead, share.
Briefly share some information about your product or service. Then, shuttup. If interested, he will ask questions. Don’t be persistent or rude. You’ve dropped the hook, you’ve wiggled the worm, you’ve done what you need to do.
Now, it’s time for you to leave. Look at your watch or phone. Politely end the conversation, shake hands or high-five, then leave.
Getting someone interested in listening to you begins with you listening to them. And while you’re listening, don’t be worried about making the sale. If your are, that will be evident in your facial expression, gestures, and tone of voice. Get absorbed into what the other person is saying.
Remember the simplicity and power of doing this:
2. Ask questions. Determine the ends values.
3. Speak in terms of what the other person wants
4. Share your product or service as helping them reach their ends values.
Cultivate the rare art of listening. Not only will this bring you help you switch prospects to customers, it will bring you more friends and provide you with insight into what people want, and what their willing to do to get what they want.
Tell them the truth.
Tell them the truth about the reason why you’re selling your product or service.
Be radically honest.
This is almost unheard of in this day and age. For that reason alone, you will stand out from the crowd of dodgy salespeople who fake their way through life.
Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.
Albert Enstein</font color>
If someone asks you why are selling natural skin care products for your MLM
(multi-level marketing) company, you might offer this answer:
“Three reasons. One, it works. I was given a free sample that I used and my Mom used, and after a week, we both got compliments on our skin. Two, I’d eventually like to work for myself, from home, and this gives me an opportunity to do that while selling a product that I believe in. Three, I like helping people,
and this product helps people get clearer skin and look years younger, the end result being they feel better about themselves and more confident.”
If you agree 100% with this answer, feel free to use it. Otherwise, think of two or three reasons why you are selling your product or service, and memorize them.
Make sure that at least one reason includes your own self interest, something like “I’d eventually like to work for myself from home. These days, job security is two or three jobs and, because of the economy, my job could get cut any time.”
To reiterate, tell them the truth about the reason why you’re selling this product or service. Be radically honest with them, and with yourself. More often than not, the prospect will appreciate your candor and remember you for it. If you
don’t get a sale then, you’re likely to get one later or at least get a referral.
Make ‘em laugh. Have fun. Take yourself seriously, but don’t be pretentious.
Make fun of yourself. Be lighthearted.
What do women want?
If you make people laugh, you will attract them to you. And guys listen up, on a scale of 1-10, the number 1 or number 2 feature that will attract a woman is a sense of humor.
For many woman, a sense of humor trumps looks. As long as you make them laugh, they will like you, or even love you.
It’s almost impossible to not be attracted to someone who makes you laugh. With well-known comedians, this effect is seen on a broad scale. Comedians are some of the highest paid people in the world.
Why is that?
I have a theory. They help us forget. And they help us remember. When you laugh, you forget all your problems. Comedians also help us remember, remember the truth because it’s offered in the cradle of a joke.
Humor is the truth wrapped in a blanket.
Kris Kemp</font color>
Think abou it. A comedian can get away with saying some truths that would
otherwise be difficult to even mention in public but within the framerwork of a joke, it is softened.
Humor is healthy for the body.
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine; but a broken spirit drieth the bones.
Proverbs 17:22 (The Bible – King James Version)
Another reason well-known comedians are paid so much is because they demonstrate value. When you induce a large number of people laugh, you’re helping them to avoid pain and gain pleasure. And for the most part, people are motivated by one or both of those triggers.
To bring this to your reality, you can use humor to make yourself a more attractive person as you help those around you to avoid-pain-and-gain-pleasure by laughing.
That’s why, very often, the most popular person in class is the class clown. They may fail the class, but they’ll be remembered. It’s likely their niche would be theatre class, anyway.
Use humor. Incite laughter.
When you’re selling your product or service, don’t take it too seriously. Don’t even really care about making the sale.
And don’t take the rejection personally. No failure. Only feedback. Instead, have fun, laugh, be light hearted, smile, enjoy yourself. That type of attitude is infectious in a good way. Spread some cheer. Be merry.
You’re sure to get more sales by being funny and positive and having fun. Even if you do not get the sale initially, your humor will get you more friends, which means more potential prospects that might become future customers.
A good story keeps us reading because we want to know what happens next.
Have you ever picked up a used book, started reading, got really into it, then you come to a missing page? Or you’ve lost the book?
If the book is well-written, so that you’re invested into the characters, you will get another copy to see what happens next.
According to my friend Terry, a therapist, the psychological term for this is called creating an open loop. It’s also called unfinished business.
Both an open loop and unfinished business demand satisfaction. An open loop needs to be closed. Unfinished business needs to be finished.
I had a really interesting discussion with Terry about this topic and she mentioned that some people cannot sleep at night due to unfinished business.
“They might have someone in their life that they need to forgive, and because they haven’t done that, they can’t sleep,” Terry explained. “Or maybe they have some unfinished business at and even if they don’t remember it consciously, the subconscious mind is keeping them awake. The mind is a very powerful thing.”
Curiosity is the wick in the candle of learning.
William Arthur Ward</font color>
TV show writers are professionals when it comes to creating open loops. You’ll find this at the end of each show, when highlights next weeks episode are shown, while the ringside sounding announcer ends his pitch with
“You don’t want to miss this in the most shocking episode yet!”
And like you, I’m hoping to remember to watch the next episode, too. TV writers get paid well for a reason. They are effective at their craft. They can potentially reach millions of viewers, so with that kind of responsibility, high skills are required.
For your product or service, you can use curiousity with great effect. Say that out loud right now … “With great effect”.
How? A number of ways. Here’s a few.
Put together an advertisement for your product or service that follows this standard formula:
1. present a problem
2. aggitate the problem
3. tell a story
4. present a solution, tease them with benefits, while hiding solution recipe
5. sweeten the pot by offering free goodies if they order right now
6. heighten the drama with special price for limited time offer
7. offer incentive with 100% money back guarantee and keeping the free goodies as a bonus gift even if they decide not to buy
To see an example of this, check out the capture pages I set up at:
The strategy is to follow the steps 1 – 7, while concealing the process or recipe for the solution to the problem stated in number one.
You’ve got to get people curious about your offer, before they will be interested to know more and then buy from you.
As mentioned, you can do this through advertisements, such as landing pages, lead capture pages, and opt-in forms.
For help building landing pages, capture pages, and opt-in forms, I recommend using these companies below. All have money-back guarantees and are well-reviewed. (You can learn how to build your own landing pages, capture pages, and opt-in forms by finding taking an online course or watching YouTube videos, but hiring a professional company will save you a lot of hours.)
lead capture pages
opt in forms
Another way to be different.
Show results, not the product.
Act as if you’re a millionaire and you’ll get people asking you how you got your money. Tell them you got it by being part of an MLM or by selling a product or a service. Don’t say anything else.
At this point, they’ll be practically begging you to know more.
Remain nonchalant, almost indifferent.
Then say: “Well (pause), if you’re really interested, here’s my card. Give me an e-mail and (say this next word slowly) maybe we can meet sometime this week.”
Or, you can take it a step further by qualifying them.
When they ask for more information, look them over with a slight grin, nod your head side to side and say: “Hmmmm, I don’t know.”
They’ll be frantic and ask you: “You don’t know what?”
You reply: “I don’t know if you could do this. It takes a special person. Are you special?”
Get them to sell themselves to you. Get them excited to know more. If they ask for details, remain mysterious, aloof, and funny. Be serious, but also have fun.
We keep moving forward, opening new doors,
and doing new things, because we’re curious and
curiousity keeps leading us down new paths.
Walt Disney</font color>
If you get people highly curious, you can get them highly excited to join your team. At this point, you qualify them to get them to sell themselves to you, so they will have a lot invested at this point as they try to prove themselves to you.
Let them do that by joining your team and being the number one salesperson for your product or service.
Curiosity is a Currency
Curiosity, if you use it correctly, is a currency.
Get them curious. Get them excited. Then, little by little, draw them into your exclusive inner circle where they can get wealthy while helping other people.
The beauty of using curiosity is that it is a hook with a bait that cannot be resisted, because it creates an open loop that demands to be closed.
This technique alone–using curiosity to turn a prospect into a loyal customer–can earn you huge profits. Become an expert at this and you will generative massive revenue.
Tell a story.
Eveyone loves a good story.
Look at the popularity of movies, and the high paid writers who craft a screenplay that keeps moviegoers sitting in a theatre for two to three hours.
Besides the standard beginning (introduction of characters), middle (introduction of conflict), and end (resolution of conflict), a good story gives us a reason to care about the characters, a main character to root for, a villian to be avoided or dealt with, a goal that needs to be overcome, an ending that satisfies, and a lot more.
We are lonesome animals. We spend all our life trying to be less lonesome. One of our ancient methods is to tell a story begging the listener to say — and to feel — “yes, that’s the way it is, or at least that’s the way I feel it. You’re not as alone as you thought.”
John Steinbeck</font color>
With your product or service, tell a story.
This is true of my own experience. In writing my e-book Make Big Profits Flipping Florida Land, here is my story.
Beginning – introduction of characters
A few years ago, I was delivering pizzas at Papa John’s, while living on friends couches, in order to save money to get my first fixer-upper (handyman special) property. My goal was to fix it up and flip (resell for profit) it, or rent it out for additional income.
Middle – introduction of conflict
After moving to North Florida, and buying a property with the money that I had saved, I discovered there wasn’t much in the way of jobs. I could either move back or stay here. But I wanted to stay here.
Ending – resolution of conflict
One day, while reading the newspaper, I discovered an ad for a property for a few hundred dollars. I did research, purchased the property, resold it for profit, and continued doing this, eventually owning 17 properties in Florida, California, Arizona. The end result of the notes on doing this is the ebook Make Big Profits Flipping Florida Land (works anywhere in the U.S.)
What is your story? Tell your story.
Each person’s life is a story that is telling itself in the living.
William Bridges</font color>
What’s your story with your product or service?
Write it down. Memorize it. And when people are genuinely interested in hearing it, tell it to them.
4 Ways to Spice Up Your Story
Use drama in telling your story and give them a reason to care.
Keep them curious as to what will happen next.
Sprinkle it with humor.
Conclude it with lessons learned and hope for the future.
Then, tell them they are writing a story too, with their actions. At the end of the day, will they be happy with the way their story came about?
Gently tell them that once they buy your product or service, they can begin writing their story in a different way, one that brings huge value to others while simultaneously bringing profits to them.
Let them know that your product can give them an opportunity to create a story with a happy ending.
These two words are key to getting people attracted to you, your product or your service.
The absolute first thing you must do to get anyone interested in you is:
Price is what you pay. Value is what you get.
Warren Buffet</font color>
If you don’t demonstrate value to someone, they will not hang around you. If
they don’t hang around you, you won’t make the sale.
The fundamental two ways you can demonstrate value is by helping someone:
1. avoid pain
2. gain pleasure
Before you get them interested in your product or service, you have to get them interested in you. How? By being yourself while at the same time honing your God-given gifts and using that skill to help others.
If you’re not sure of what your skill is, do this right now.
E-mail ten to twenty relatives, friends, acquaintances and ask them this:
What do you think my skill is?
What do you think I am good at?
How do you think I can use this to move my ife forward and help others?
How can I use this to earn money?
Your answers are very appreciated.
(your name here)
You’ll probably laugh when you read the answer, because often it’s something
that you weren’t even aware of, but that a large number of your friends or family are completely aware of. Why is this? In life, sometimes we tend to see ourselves in a way that is far from who we really are.
“Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.”
Proverbs 13:10 (The Bible – King James Version)
Use their answers as a wake up call to really find out where your skill is, and how you can demonstrate value with that skill to help others avoid pain and gain pleasure.
Helping others will gain you friends and fans. Then, sprinkle little curiousity seeds into the conversational soil every now and then, phrases like “I made $150 dollars yesterday” or “in a year, I’ll be working for myself” or “have you seen her, she looks so much younger” or “have you seen how much better she looks?”
When they ask about what happened, put in an endorsement for your product or
service. Do not say anything else. Do not sell it. Wait until they ask you for more information.
Let them see results of how you demonstrate value, then, over time, how your product or service demonstrates value.
Eye appeal is buy appeal. Let them see results and let them lead the way to a purchase. Just answer questions and take their order.
Once you establish some kind of rapport with your prospect, either through copywriting or in person, you are likely to make a sale, get a referral or both.
“It was a wonderful time (making “The Partridge Family”) and I loved every minute of it. We had a great executive producer who was in tune with all of us … We had an incredible rapport and I think that’s what made us successful.”
Shirley Jones</font color>
Rapport is a relationship of mutual trust and respect. When two people are comfortable with each other, usually due to sharing similar interests, and trust and respect, they share rapport.
Use these 5 steps to build rapport with someone.
2. Get to the point
3. Be funny and respectful
4. Ask for advice. Ask questions.
5. Be honest.
In order to build a comfortable relationship with someone, you must first understand the different sorting (how they accumulate information) styles that people use.
There are three dominant sorting styles:
Visual – with the eyes, seeing, visuals, pictures
Auditory – with the ears, hearing, listening, sounds
Kinisthetic – feelings
Out of the three dominant sorting styles, people usually behave with one as their main way to communicate.
Typically, a person who is auditory senses will use phrases such as: That sounds fun. That sounds good to me. I hear what you’re saying.
Often, an auditory will tell a story like this:
Then I said “”
Then she said “”
Then I said “”
A visual oriented person would use phrases like this: I see. I don’t really see what you’re saying. I can picture it.
A kinisthetic oriented person would use phrase like this: I’m really feeling it. I feel really good. That feels good.
How to Use Sorting Styles to Establish Rapport
In a conversation, if you notice the other person is about to fall asleep or getting fidgety, listen to the words they use. They are probably have a different communication style than you.
If you are visual and they are auditory, then you need to get auditory. You have to relate to them in a way that they understand.
In Communication, Words are 7%
According to studies, only 7% of what is communicated between people is transmitted through the words.
Where does the rest come from?
38% comes through the tone of the voice, the tempo, the timbre.
55% of communication comes from body language.
To get your prospect comfortable with you, you want to
mirror their words (7%)
mirror their tone of voice and tempo of speech (38%)
mirror their body language (55%).
Mirroring and matching both their communication style (visual, auditory, kinisthetic) and body language will help build rapport among you and your
Exercise these techniques with subtlety.
By communicating effectively, you are establishing rapport in an efficient manner by opening a line of communication with your prospect that they are familiar with. In doing this, you’re speaking to them in a way that they can understand.
Establishing rapport, quickly, is a critical component in making a positive impression while you are sharing your product or service to a prospect. Over the long term, building rapport can be used with your downline and upline, too.
Treat this technique with great care, and reap the benefits of positive results.
Knowledge > Fear
Memorize these principles. Incorporate them into your life and watch the results. Once these become second nature to you, you will automatically apply them when mentioning your product or service to a prospect.
That leads us to the end of the 7 Principles of Attraction Marketing. Let’s go over these principles one more time.
7 Principles of Attraction Marketing
1. Listen. Ask questions. Speak in terms of what the other person wants.
2. Tell them the truth.
3. Use humor.
4. Use curiosity.
5. Tell a story.
6. Demonstrate value.
7. Establish rapport.
Get really good at all these techniques and you will have your own personal 7-person sales team that will hook your prospect and convert them to a loyal
What are you recommendations for turning indifferent prospects into loyal customers for life? Leave your ideas in the comments.
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